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It’s Grief
The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and Loss
Grief changes more than our circumstances. It changes the way we understand ourselves. We’ve been taught to think of grief as something we should move through, get over, or leave behind. I don’t believe that’s how grief works.
In It’s Grief, I invite you to discover grief as an evolving relationship — one that has the capacity to become a source of resilience, insight, and transformation. Drawing on more than 25 years of clinical experience, alongside my own personal journey, I introduce the 11 Phases of Grief® — a compassionate framework that recognizes grief as deeply personal rather than a series of stages to complete.
Whether your loss stems from death, illness, trauma, divorce, identity shifts, or another life-changing experience, this book offers practical guidance, thoughtful reflection, and a different way of understanding what it means to heal.
Healing isn’t about leaving grief behind. It’s about discovering how to move forward while carrying your story with greater compassion, understanding, and hope.
Guided Journal
It’s Grief: Notes to Self
A companion journal for your healing journey
Healing doesn’t only happen through understanding. It also happens through reflection. It’s Grief: Notes to Self is a guided companion journal designed to accompany your healing journey. Built around the practice of expressive writing, it offers thoughtful prompts and gentle invitations to help you untangle complex emotions, recognize patterns, and give voice to experiences that can feel difficult to express aloud.
You don’t have to write perfectly. You simply have to write honestly.
Over time, your words become more than a journal. They become a conversation with yourself — revealing the quiet shifts, unexpected insights, and moments of growth that are often difficult to recognise while you’re living through them.
Together, It’s Grief and Notes to Self offer both understanding and practice. One invites you to see grief differently. The other invites you to discover what that understanding means for your own life.
Forthcoming book
Invisible No More
When Trauma Doesn’t Just Wound, It Occupies
Some wounds don’t simply hurt. They quietly reshape the way you experience yourself, your relationships, and the world around you. What if trauma doesn’t simply live in the past? What if it continues to shape the way you think, love, trust, and move through life — long after the original event has ended?
In Invisible No More, I explore what happens when trauma doesn’t simply wound, but continues to occupy the nervous system, identity, and our capacity for connection. I introduce the Sexual Grief Effect™ — a framework that gives language to the often invisible losses of identity, safety, desire, belonging, and selfhood that can follow sexual trauma and deeply disruptive life experiences.
At the heart of the book is The Liberation Protocol™ — a therapeutic framework that helps readers move from emotional captivity toward greater freedom, agency, and self-connection. Blending neuroscience, clinical insight, personal reflection, and practical exercises, Invisible No More is an invitation to understand the remarkable ways the mind and body learned to survive.
Because no one should have to remain invisible — especially to themselves.
Free Resources
Exploring the 11 Phases of Grief®
Grief changes more than what we’ve lost. It changes the way we see ourselves, our relationships, and the world around us. Sometimes grief follows the death of someone we love. Other times it arrives through divorce, illness, trauma, betrayal, infertility, the loss of a career, or the future we imagined for ourselves.
That’s why I developed the 11 Phases of Grief® — not as a roadmap to follow or a series of stages to complete, but as a compassionate framework that helps us understand grief as a living, evolving relationship.
As you explore the eleven phases, you may find yourself recognising experiences you’ve never quite had words for.
Sign up below for instant access to a free guided email journey introducing each of the 11 Phases of Grief®. Each email offers thoughtful insights, gentle reflection, and journaling prompts designed to help you better understand your own relationship with grief.
Because understanding your grief is often the first step toward understanding yourself.
The 11 Phases
- 01 – Shock & Disbelief
- 02 – Denial
- 03 – Bargaining
- 04 – Guilt
- 05 – Anger
- 06 – Depression
- 07 – Reconstruction
- 08 – Acceptance
- 09 – Hope
- 10 – Meaning-Making
- 11 – Post-traumatic Growth